5 Things Wolfeboro

May 26, 2017 - Leave a Response

With summer on its way, we will be flooded with guests from all over the world.  Here is our 5 Things Wolfeboro list:

  1. Enjoy the lakes.
  2. Hike Mt. Major.
  3. Visit Spider Web Gardens and walk through the cutting garden.
  4. Walk the rail trail.
  5. Have an ice cream at Bailey’s Bubble and listen to the band in Cate Park while enjoying the town docks and Main Street shopping.

Open Letter to Shonda Rhimes

March 17, 2017 - Leave a Response

Dear Shonda Rhimes,

You’re right.  You are a liar.  You can live in Vermont and make jam whenever you want.  You don’t need more money.  I know this because I live in New Hampshire making gingerbread houses and while I may be as rich or richer than you I doubt I have more money in the bank.  You will live in Vermont when you really want to live in Vermont.  Nothing will stop you.  I read your book.  You will say yes.

Year of Yes reminded me that we all invent our friends, and maybe everything else along the way too.  In 2003, I drew myself a new friend, Gg, and began writing for her.  I had a friend I loved, one I’ll call Randy.  Sadly, she inspired me to be my lowest self.  Randy reveled in my descent.  Nothing thrilled her more than to hear me curse. I only did so when things were painful.  Randy also wanted my things.  She would end up sleeping with my ex, coveting time with my kids, and preparing chocolate-covered bullshit as if I would swallow without noticing.  Who could blame her?  She’d seen me do it before.

When Randy banged him it came as no surprise. She would take him any time she could.  I didn’t know it then but I drew myself a new friend, Gg, because I needed one who would inspire me to rise up and away from all she represented.  I miss Randy now and then but I don’t miss hearing her make fun of others .  Maybe you miss Pam or Ken sometimes?

Gg is my Cristina Yang.  She made me braver.  She opened doors.  She laughs at the devil.  Gg is not famous!  I say this with delight because it’s like having the whole resort all to ourselves.

Our resort includes people like Amanda and Christine, rich women who astound me with their goodness.  They are talented and kind, a rare pairing.  The pool is surrounded with palm trees and people like Wendy, who I’ve known since I was 10 years old.  We grew up making tacos and playing tennis together.  We rarely speak, write, or communicate in any way other than thought.  Love without all the chatter and gossip.  I feel like I could tell these women anything but I won’t.  I simply don’t enjoy speaking that much, except with my husband and kids. I have no friends on Facebook.   I’ve never shared a single word with some of my closest friends:  Wayne, Martha, Byron, Deepak, Eckhart, Louise.   I may stop speaking English all together.

I love French but Spanish loves me and I’m finally mature enough to know which relationship is better.  My mom is fluent and my husband and I just returned from the Dominican Republic where it’s all thatched roofs and Big Ass Fans.  We had a magnificent time with wonderful people like Juan Carlos and Gabriel. Fantástico is my new favorite word.  I choose Spanish.

And, like you, the word diversity bugs me the way it’s used today.  I prefer using homogeny to describe the world I like.  Maybe I’ll get a bumper sticker:  HOMOGENY.  I’ll watch people egg my car and call me racist but I don’t mind if the world is all the same:  kind, loving, generous, forgiving, smart, efficient, patient, punctual, respectful, thoughtful, creative, funny, happy, prayerful, and bright.

So Shonda Rhimes, keep lying to all us liars out here.  We’ll keep tuning in.  Simply wearing our bodies around is sort of a fib isn’t it?  We can’t help ourselves.

Enjoy Vermont.


February 14, 2017 - Leave a Response

Albert Einstein is famous but few people know how he believed history should be taught in school and I agree with him.  According to a book I just read, Einstein believed we should highlight individuals who have improved society by their independent thought and creativity and that should be called history.  Of course, everyone’s idea of who those people are would be different so here’s mine:

Temple Grandin

Peace Pilgrim

Millard Fuller

Albert Einstein

Ellen DeGeneres

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Abraham Lincoln

Byron Katie


Why I love McDonald’s

February 4, 2017 - Leave a Response

I’ve eaten there since I was a kid and, to this day, I love a good Big Mac twice a year or more.  Plus, everyone I know who’s worked there for at least one year has gone on to become happy, healthy, gainfully employed or successful in their own business with gratitude for the golden arches and most everything and everyone else.  Additionally, I don’t know anyone who’s ever gotten sick after eating at McDonald’s, probably because cleanliness matters more than a cool culture, at least to them.





January 29, 2017 - Leave a Response

I had open borders.  Everyone was welcome.  We were robbed blind and injured badly.  Still, I am open, I said.  I build bridges not walls.  Again, robbed and injured.  Now I understand that walls are not bad.  Walls are walls.  Bridges are not good.  Bridges are bridges. Vetting is not bad.  Vetting is vetting.

These days, I appreciate looking into the background and motives of those wishing to enter. And we welcome many.  We are strong enough to help and prosper together.

Healed.  Stronger and wiser.

Your home is your country.  You are free to leave the door open while you are at work and while you sleep.  You are free to clothe, feed, insure and care for all who enter.  That sounds lovely to me.

A cell wall is a structural layer surrounding some types of cells, situated outside the cell membrane. It can be tough, flexible, and sometimes rigid. It provides the cell with both structural support and protection, and also acts as a filtering mechanism.

If you are having a difficult time with the election results (I understand), please watch this.


5 Things Newport

January 18, 2017 - Leave a Response

My husband and I are currently excited about our new book, The 5-Things Travel Guide.  In case we don’t get around to writing it (a very real possibility) here is the concept:  for each location, we give you the top 5 things to do, according to us.  Here’s our list for Newport, Rhode Island.

  1. Cliff Walk – this is a beautiful and long walk.  Wear a bathing suit and pack a towel on a hot day so you can jump into the Atlantic Ocean.  Otherwise, just walk and enjoy the view on any day.  Gorgeous!
  2. The Old Stone Mill, Touro Park at night.  It looks so much prettier at night!
  3. The International Tennis Hall of Fame – even if you don’t like or appreciate tennis, this place is worth a stop.
  4. Sail an America’s Cup sailboat!  Such a great way to be in Newport.  The crews and captain are very friendly and it’s a blast!
  5. Any Mansion.  It’s Newport.  See a mansion.


December 31, 2016 - Leave a Response


December 25, 2016 - Leave a Response

Happy Birthday Mom.  We all love you so much.  Let’s celebrate!


The Good Book

December 24, 2016 - Leave a Response

I don’t care what anyone believes about the Bible and I don’t think God cares either. It’s an ancient text that has survived multiple attempts to wipe it off the face of the earth and, though I’m not at all religious and do not attend church, I’m grateful.  So very very grateful.

Proverbs 3:5

Trust in the Lord with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding.

1 Thessalonions 5:18

In all things give thanks.

Psalm 37:4

Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.

Romans 8:28

All things work together for good to those who love God.

I love the God who is beating my heart.  God knows I’m not doing it.  And one day, right on time, my heart will stop beating.  And that won’t be me either.


Get it?

December 16, 2016 - Leave a Response

She says it better.  And, this too.


Internal Medicine

December 14, 2016 - Leave a Response

Most of the best things I’ve ever done for myself (that have also benefitted others) have been called stupid crazy or insane by someone (or many people).  That’s one reason I have trouble advising people.  Many times what is best for one person sounds insane to the rest of the world.  Study your own insides.  Leave other people’s insides alone. That’s the best advice I’ve got today.  If only I would take it more often.



November 29, 2016 - Leave a Response

I like being in the shrinking club of people who have not seen it.  I’m sure the show is amazing but I recently asked a well-known Broadway journalist to recommend a show that will never win any awards and I can’t wait to see it. Bonzer.

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